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Welcome back to self-help Monday, we’ll be talking about the ways you can reflect and organise both physically and mentally in your life.
There are a multitude of different ways that humans can repress information that shouldn’t be repressed, for example, childhood trauma, adulthood trauma, depression, anxiety, and a plethora of other problems that for most people reduce our quality of life. It’s such a shame that people have to deal with this, because they don’t have to. We all have the right to enjoy our lives to the fullest extent that we can, however the world is unjust and some people have to try harder than others to be happy.
I think one thing worth mentioning is the fact that everybody is different and iron am in no way licence to give advice on life and its forthcoming. However, I can say that I am very educated in the topic of philosophy, self-care, human rights, the human body, and I deeply enjoy researching and being an activist on this issue.
The human body is a fascinating thing and it’s even more interesting to research it and understand why we do the things we do. A lot of the time, people prioritise short-term goals over long-term goals, and this is counterproductive considering long-term goals are what we are going to be experiencing in the future, and probably for longer than the short-term goals. it’s all about prioritising different aspects of your life and focusing on the things that will benefit you deep down in your soul.
When was the last time you set boundaries and stuck to them? People often prioritise other people’s superstitious feelings over that own genuine happiness and wellbeing, we see this a lot represented in capitalist societies, for example people who are born at the bottom sometimes stay at the bottom – and this is sad to see. set your boundaries and stick to them because at the end of the day we could all be in a simulation and the person you’re chatting to might not even be real. I’m kidding, hopefully. I hope I have established my Ethos and morals in this long introduction and I hope you understand where I’m coming from when I say that I’m in this for both yours and my own well-being, that’s what I’m all about. I’m just a groovy chick.
Let’s evaluate where we stand.I think it’s very clear to say that a lot of people are forced into things by tradition and security and often these things make the person miserable and give them a sense of feeling trapped and depressed.
Humans thrive off of things that are non-binary. We love to eat different kinds of food, we love to explore different countries, we enjoy sleeping with different people of different genders (most of us). But when it comes to jobs, housing, taxes, and prison (for people that don’t follow the laws set by the government) everything is binary and there is no arguing with it, otherwise you’ll be sent to prison. Are you stressed because you’re in a rubbish job?
It’s important for us to stand back and recognise these things while they’re in Bloom rather than while they have fully developed.
Imagine this, you’re chatting to someone and you don’t get on. But, you don’t say anything and end up marrying them. You would have been better off cutting off the relationship and moving on, and working on yourself rather than pursuing this relationship with someone that doesn’t make you happy and most likely is also bored of the relationship. But fear and and uncertainty freaks you out and you try to grab onto anything that you can for safety and security. This leads to you now being married to someone you don’t even like. It’s not even a mad scenario, this can happen. This could have even happened to your parents. It’s too common nowadays to see someone divorcing their partner because of problems they could have addressed in the early stages of the relationship. Apply this to your life!
If psychological epiphanies aren’t your thing, you could always try and get your life on track in the medium of tidying up. I loved nothing more than coming home from work and just tidying my room spotlessly, hoovering and wiping all the surfaces down. I find it therapeutic because it’s self care, and it makes me feel good. It also works out as cardiovascular exercise when you Hoover, and not to sound pathetic, but I don’t have enough time to exercise
I find writing down my plans and planing out dates parameters gives me the peace of mind I need in order to go about my day… Having a planned week and budget to support it (this is where money comes into this unfortunately) is an amazing way to get your life on track.
I started using a planner at the beginning of 2020, and it’s helped me track my income, expenses, plans both long and short term, and all the other things in between.
Get a planner! Be it from Poundland or a really unnecessarily expensive one from Waterstones…